“Listen with the ears of tolerance! See through the eyes of compassion! Speak with the Language of Love” a quote from Jelaluddin Rumi,
When Rumi's advice is tested beyond compassion, testing tolerance, we have the choice of saying "No" if only to persevere the love of ourself. Your "Beaker" is the measurement.
I'm reading "The Righteous Mind, Why Good People Are Divided By Politics And Religion" by Jonathan Haidt and through my eyes a morality test:
The husband who found scattered throughout the house narcotics hidden. She was a nurse who stole from her patients. He said No, and she divorced him.
The husband and wife work The wife's company gives dental insurance. His company too. He goes to her dentist for a crown. Dentist asks her to double dip on both company insurance plans. and split it. Wife says yes. Husband says no.
The Bride followed the demands of the Groom to wear sneakers under her wedding gown so that she would not tower over him.
A son who moved many times with his wife and children, finally somewhere unknown for 7 years, only to be contacted for a wedding invitation for his second marriage.
A son who married into a hateful family, who showed hate at every gathering, starting with the shitty seating arrangements for his parents at the wedding reception, next to the kitchen and restrooms. It ended with no announcement of the birth of their child, and the non acknowledgment of a personal announcement of a death in the family.
A daughter who took sides with her husband who took sides with his cottage neighbors over the physical attack on her father, starting with the neighbor's whippet, and continuing with the fists. The Sheriff said state law says all dogs must be on a leash and that he would witness for a personal law suit. The daughter calls her father begging for dropped charges.
A daughter who joins with her husband a wacky doodle church after leaving a traditional Christian Church, and sends a letter stating they want nothing further to do with her parents because they are bad grandparents.
We have an umbrella enveloping our likes and dislikes hopefully guided by ethics. "Even children have an innate sense of morality, knowing right from wrong", from his story of children playing a game of marbles, a game of simple rules from his book.
But some things go beyond the pale. The "No Beaker" overflowed. I wonder under which foundation would Jonathan Haidt place these beyond rude, absurd behaviors?